What are we really saying?

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You know how sometimes you suddenly see something you never noticed before? 

It's like you are awakened to something that you were blind to in the past. Like when you get a new car and then suddenly you see that there are many of those cars driving around your community but you don't ever remember seeing them before? 

I have been married for almost 20 years. In that time I have learned to see myself through the eyes of someone else. At first, I didn't want to have my husbands perspective. I was defensive and thought I had a clear picture of who I was and how I dealt with life, and specifically, conflict.....

Then suddenly, here I had someone who saw me deeper than I saw myself and was putting a mirror up to show me things I often didn't want to see.

I had a choice. I could step to the side and take a hard look at myself, or I could just keep the blinders on, stay in defense mode and be totally stuck in and on myself. 

When I allowed myself to see the new thing, suddenly I was seeing it over and over again. Just like the new car scenario. I began to see my own dysfunction, even as it was coming out of my mouth at times......I have had to relearn so much! 

What I say is important but why I say it is possibly the truest part of communication. The what behind the words is what I am actually communicating. Both to myself and others. Even if I don't realize it.......and often we don't.

So we need to wake up to what we are really saying. We need to start becoming very aware of the mechanics of our words and the heart behind it.

The bible says that out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks.

The question I have for you today is: What is the overflow of your heart? Because that is what you are giving to those around you, and even more importantly, it is what you are giving to God as well through your prayer life. 

I have been working hard in the past year to improve my relationship with my amazing creator. Part of that is reading my bible and meditating on it, and part of that is how I talk to God about what I read as well as what is happening in my life. 

Our leadership team at church recently read the book "Moving Mountains" and it has made a huge impact on how I pray. It has made me rethink how I speak to God and others, and how I speak over the situations around me.

So I am learning that the words I use are important. And the WHY an WHAT behind the words have a huge impact on my prayer life. 

What am I really saying to God when I pray? 

Jesus encourages us to come BOLDLY to the throne. To make our requests to our Father with courage. We learn in scripture that we can powerfully speak over people and circumstances, and in the authority given to us through the Holy Spirit, we can see God move in powerful ways.

BUT, are we being intentional about what we are actually saying?

This is a bit of an abstract thought. One that isn't exactly easy to convey. But please stick with me and please comment if you have a better way of explaining it! I believe we all need this revelation.

When we pray to God with a hesitant heart, it comes out in our words.

When we are not fully sure we can trust the outcome, our vocabulary reflects it.

When we struggle with doubt, it is apparent in our demeanor towards prayer.

When we feel insecure in our place with Jesus, we speak as servants or beggars, and not children of the King.

We use words and phrases that diminish. We beg instead of declare. We limit God because we put parameters on what we ask for. 

For me specifically, one of these words that has become a personal conviction is "JUST".

"God we JUST come before you and ask......"

"God we know if you could JUST....."

"Help us to JUST............"

We use this word A LOT in our prayers. 

The definition of "just" is even sort of complicated. As an adverb it means: exactly or precisely: by a narrow margin; barely: only or merely

I didn't even realize what I had been saying. 

Do I want God to answer by a narrow margin? Or do I want it it be open and expansive and bigger than life?

Could I be limiting God by saying "only" answer this specific way?

Now certainly, God is NOT limited just because I choose to use words that are limiting. He is the all powerful God of the universe. 

But we are told to pray and ask, and that God longs to give us good things. He says we have not, because we ask not. 

Maybe we have not because we ask weakly. Because we are not even sure of what we are asking for? Because we are using words that are not creating something powerful or bringing God's authority out through our prayers. Perhaps we need to wake up to what we are really saying. Get out of the familiar cadence and routine words we often find ourselves in while praying. Perhaps we need to stir up afresh our prayer life and start expanding our vocabulary with words like:

Declare

Align

Empower

Strengthen

Command

Build

Because now that I have woken up to the "God just..." I hear it everywhere. And I believe with all of my heart there is a fresh wave of authority about to explode in the church. And perhaps it can begin with being more intentional with our words.

After all, in the beginning was the WORD..............

 

 

 

 

 

 

Taylor Madge